Your Wedding
Your wedding is a joyful celebration of your love, and an expression of your commitment to one another. It is also a reflection of you and your relationship, and of the experiences and values that bring you together and will help you to create your future.
To shape and lead that ceremony, I am dedicated to getting to know you and to crafting a wedding that is true to who you are, and deepened and enriched by the beauty and wisdom of Jewish tradition.
How do we do this? Here is the process I have found works best for most couples.
We begin by having an initial meeting or consultation to get to know one another and decide whether I am the right officiant for you.
Once we agree to work together, we meet three times, in person or by Internet conference. We also check in as necessary between meetings by phone or email..
First meeting: If I have not yet done so, I get to know you better, go over the elements of the wedding ceremony with you, and answer any questions you have. We then focus on the ketubah, the document that contains your wedding promises, both because it is the basis for your marriage, and because it may take time to create, so it's a good idea to start on it early. Between the first and second meetings you work on your ketubah, using examples and information I give you.
Second meeting: We focus on the ceremony itself in detail. I help you to look at the meanings of each part, the choices about what to include, the options for language and for interpretations, and more. We explore your beliefs and values, and how the ceremony can best express them. We also cover ways you might choose to include friends or family in your ceremony.
Third meeting: We go over any remaining details about your wedding. Then we spend the majority of the time talking about you and your relationship -- its history, what you've learned from one another, your hopes for the future ... I do this because for many couples, as your wedding date approaches, you have less time to connect with each other and focus not only on the how, but on why you are getting married. This conversation brings all of us back to what really matters, and helps us arrive at your wedding day with this in mind and heart.
On your wedding day, I arrive ahead of time to be sure everything is set up, and then have the joy of leading your ceremony. If you choose to stay in touch with me after your wedding, I will be glad to continue our connection.
If you'd like to learn more, you can check out my FAQs page.
Then, since there is no substitute for connecting with one another directly, I encourage you to set up a free, no-obligation, one-on-one consultation with me -- just click here.
I look forward to getting to know you!
“Lawrence and I wanted to thank you. We really enjoyed working with you, and loved the ceremony.
... So many people (dozens) told us that this was the most moving Jewish wedding they had ever been to. ... My guess is they’re right.
We got many compliments about you ... You bring a reverential, solid, and upbeat presence to the event that gives our relationship and union a real depth and seriousness.
Much love.”